To my son Brendan; don’t give up your voice. Please vote. Love, Mom

Our son informed us last night that he wasn’t going to vote in November.  Apparently he’s disgusted with everything and everyone, and he’s just not voting. I could see Susan’s head start to explode and then I saw her change her tactics – she went full-out for that whole Mother guilt thing. That – do it for your gay mother thing – and the do it for your mother who is going to be 71 thing – to the make that my birthday present thing – and it ended up being the: “Oh Brendan – you have to vote, you just have to” thing…

One would have to know our son to understand how surprising this “I’m not voting” statement is.  He’s compassionate and caring and believes in his soul that he is his brother’s keeper. He will talk with great fervor about liberal politics and has little or no tolerance for this gay-bashing, hate-filled, religious right of the Republican Party.

He also has little or no tolerance for what he believes to be wrong with the Democrats – hence his decision to not vote in November.

I understand that everyone has the choice whether or not to vote in this or any election. I also understand his disgust with all parties involved in this debacle that is November’s election.  I’ve been there.

The thing is – if you don’t vote – then you have given up your voice.  You may think – Oh Barb – I don’t have a voice anyway, no one cares, no one listens, no one gives a damn.  Okay – but don’t you care about your voice?

When you give up your voice the people you dislike most in this world – they win. They have beaten you; they have succeeded in shoving their agenda so far down your throat that you’ve given up your voice to them.

The fight for freedom is never, ever easy and the fight for what is right and just is never going to be agreed on – ever.  There will always be the choice for you to make between good and evil. Now, what you consider to be good others may consider to be evil, which is why every vote counts, every vote.

The choice in this election is really quite clear. The Republicans laid out their vision of what they want the United States to be in their Platform.  No abortions – no exceptions. No gay marriage – no gay civil unions. You can carry your guns – and use them – anywhere. No taxing the rich – raise taxes on the middle class – vouchers for Medicare – prayer in public school – the public display of the Ten Commandments as a reflection of our history and of our country’s Judeo-Christian heritage – it goes on and on and on and on… read it for yourself :

For those of us in the gay community and for those who love and support those of us in the gay community – your choice is an easy one.  All you have to do is read what they believe about gays and lesbians having the right to marry.

  • …We reaffirm our support for a Constitutional amendment defining marriage as the union of one man and one woman. We applaud the citizens of the majority of States which have enshrined in their constitutions the traditional concept of marriage, and we support the campaigns underway in several other States to do so.
  • Preserving and Protection Traditional Marriage
  • The institution of marriage is the foundation of civil society. Its success as an institution will determine our success as a nation. It has been proven by  both experience and endless social science studies that traditional marriage is best for children. Children raised in intact married families are more likely to attend college,are physically and emotion-ally healthier, are less likely to use drugs or alcohol, engagein crime, or get pregnant outside of marriage. The success of marriage directly impacts the economic well-being of individuals. Furthermore,the future of marriage affects freedom. The lack of  family  formation not only leads to more government costs, but also to more government control over the lives of its citizens in all aspects. We recognize andhonor the courageous efforts of those who bear the many  burdens of parenting alone, even as we believe that marriage, the union of one man and one woman must be upheld as the national standard, a goal to stand for, encourage, and promote throughlaws governing marriage. We embrace the principle that all Americans should be treated with respect and dignity.

To all my friends and all the friends of gays and lesbians everywhere – please consider the importance of your vote. Consider all that you have – and all that the gay community doesn’t have, and all that the Republicans don’t ever want us to have.  Mostly – I want you to remember that it’s about respect and validation that we are simply Americans wanting to live the American dream of family…

So, to my son and to all the sons and daughters of gays and lesbians in this United States of America – if for no other reason than the fact that you love your Mothers and Fathers and want them to live in a County that no longer treats them as vile, undeserving, second-class citizens…

Please let your voice be heard – Please Vote.



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8 Responses to To my son Brendan; don’t give up your voice. Please vote. Love, Mom

  1. Safe Bet's Amy says:

    I can empathize to some extent with Brendan. The haters on the far right with their blatant anti-gay and anti-woman agenda certainly aren’t getting my vote. But then again, neither are the “middle right” democrats who are ALMOST as bad and who have consistently “back burnered” my human rights (that is until they needed our support and campaign contributions).

    Did you perchance tell him about Jill Stein and the Green Party? She / they are fervently in support of LGBTQ rights, against war and are pro environmental causes. (all of the the things the rethuglicans and their Demo-clones aren’t!)

    • barbaraweicksel says:

      Amy – I understand what you’re saying – I just have to believe that until a third party candidate has a chance of winning – I have to give my vote to the party that I know isn’t going to change the Constitution. I do respect your passion and your right to do what you believe in your heart is the right thing…

  2. Beautifully stated, Barb. Kudos.

  3. Lea Matthews says:

    Barb, an excellent essay! The first thing that occurred to me about this issue is that it is like being a parent. If we are unhappy about the choices that our children make, do we remove support from the child or do we agree to disagree and continue to love and support the child no matter what.

    • barbaraweicksel says:

      Lea, Exactly – this was the point we tried to make to him. I understand his frustration – I really do – but this election is even more important. thanks for reading and for the comment.

  4. Lea Matthews says:

    I am concerned that I didn’t make myself clear in the above comment. I was comparing it to Brendan’s choice not to vote, not any way that I feel you are not being supportive of his choice.

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