My being gay is not my opinion – it’s my life.

I’ve been asked numerous times why I write so much about gay issues. Why can’t I just let things go? Why can’t I just let others have their opinions? Why must I protest and tell people not to shop at certain stores? Why do I think my opinion is right?

To be clear; it’s not my opinion, it’s my life.  I think if we all understood this, we would understand why it is I write about issues that affect my life.

Also – to be clear; I don’t think my opinion is right, I just believe that my life has as much meaning and deserves as much  love, respect and dignity as the person who follows me around a room reading their Bible to me telling me I’m going to hell.

Just because I’m forever trying to educate people about how it feels to be gay doesn’t mean I think I’m trying to force my gayness on to you.   What it means is that a straight person will have a different view of their life than I do, and if you don’t even bother to listen or educate yourself on how other people live, how can you possibly know that what happens in other people’s lives matters to the world at large?

I’ve been asked why I’m so hard on some people of faith, why do I feel the need to attack them, why can‘t I just let them be.   I would love nothing more than to just let them be, if they would simply do the same for me.  Just let me be.  For some reason though, who I am doesn’t jive with what they believe, so in order to keep me in line – they spend millions and millions of dollars passing laws that prevent me from living my American Dream.  Will I write about that? You bet I will, and I’ll be listing names of the people and the organizations that feel they have the right to say my life doesn’t matter.

To tell anyone they don’t matter, for any reason, is just wrong, and any religion that teaches you to hate and pass judgments on others is wrong.  No exceptions.  I don’t understand why more people don’t get this.  The more we are divided, the more we lose as a people. If you’re not offended because the Boy Scouts of America won’t let gay boys into their troops, you should be.  If you’re not offended that women are losing access to birth control – you should be.  If you’re not offended that United States Citizens are being denied their right to vote by the thousands – you should be.  If you’re not offended by Chick –Fil- A (a fast-food restaurant) giving money to a group known as Exodus International who mission statement is: “Mobilizing the body of Christ to minister grace and truth to a world impacted by homosexuality.” You should be.  These things matter; not just to me, but to every single one of us.  It shouldn’t be people thinking of ways to divide us, it should be people thinking of ways to unite as one open, giving, accepting society.

It’s hard enough just living from day-to-day sometimes. We all, regardless of faith, sex, and orientation have the daily struggles of life, death, illness, family, jobs, money… We don’t need hate, anger, bigotry, thrown into the mix.

Being straight isn’t an opinion – it’s a life.  Being black isn’t an opinion – it’s a life.  Being a Muslim isn’t an opinion – it’s a life.

Being gay isn’t my opinion – it’s my life.


About barbaraweicksel

My home is San Diego, CA - a most beautiful city. Mountains to the East, Pacific Ocean to the West, and the desert in between the mountains and the ocean. Beauty everywhere, but... The world is full of beauty, and I do love to travel. what I hope to share on these pages are my thoughts and some photos of the world as I see and experience it. I'd be happy to have you along on the journey - and then join me while I'm at home...
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5 Responses to My being gay is not my opinion – it’s my life.

  1. I honestly doubt that str8 people realize just how often and how much their heterosexuality impacts their life. When you or I hear that we are “always waving the lesbian rights flag” or are “always in people’s faces about what should be private” they obviously don’t realize how they shove THEIR crap in OUR faces every day. Equal is EQUAL. We have as much right to live openly free, vocal and queer as the str8 folk do.

  2. Cheryl Walters Wentz says:

    You keep on writing about whatever you feel, Barb. I value your opinions – they are right on the mark. We should all care that every living being on this earth is treated fairly and with dignity. As someone I know once said, ” I have spoken”

  3. leslie (imkarn23) says:

    O, Barb – i feel deeply your angst! You may not believe that is possible – but, trust me – I have…’special needs’ as well – and mine? Aren’t even socially acceptable enough to rail against in writing! So trust me – i deeply feel your pain! You are what you are! I is what I is! We be who we be! options are nil!

  4. Well said, Barb! You have just as much right to write about anything and everything you choose, as the next person does. I love the impact of what you said, “Being gay isn’t my opinion-it’s my life”. And what better a perspective to write from than you very own? Sadly, there will always be people who are against something, and would rather spend their time placing judgment on those who live a different lifestyle than their own. I am glad you do not let the critical keep you from living your life, or writing about it. You are a genuinely amazing human being, and I am honored to call you my friend. ❤

  5. k.e. loe says:

    Careful when you relate religion to sexual orientation–one is a choice.

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