Yesterday when I logged on to my Facebook page I read this little blurb that a “friend” had written. As I read this little blurb I was thinking – “What the hell is she thinking?” And then I was thinking – “What the hell is she saying?” – And then it was – “Why the hell am I still reading?” That soon turned in to – “I’m writing and telling her she’s crazy.”
Well, I did write a blog about it – but… I didn’t post it on my Facebook page. I decided that the blog may come off as hurtful to some of my “friends” who aren’t involved in any way about what I was saying, and I didn’t want to hurt anyone who was innocent in this. I must be maturing on some level and I suppose on those levels – this is a good thing.
Still – I wonder why there are folks who believe they have all the answers and tell the rest of us how we should handle our lives.
Then again – on some level isn’t this what I do when I write about the inequalities that face the gay community and women in this United States? On some level am I not telling you how to live your life so the gay community and those of us who are women will be able to live our lives? I mean – if you are not of the mind that gays and women deserve equal rights I will come off as a preachy, in-your-face, crazy Lesbian, won’t I?
We all come at the world from where we live and where we have lived. Our experiences are all different; our levels of pain and suffering differ from person to person from life to life. I don’t need or want someone telling me not to complain about something when that something is as important as equal rights for the gay community or women being thrown under the bus. This is my world – this is my experience, this is what I know to be true in this world.
There are some things in this world that are just wrong no matter through what eyes you are looking at it. None of us should stop complaining about people being hungry or homeless. None of us should stop complaining about kids and adults being bullied for who they are, and none of us should stop questioning politicians who run on a platform of hate. None of us should stop calling out those Christians who hide behind the bible in their unending quest to stigmatize the gay community, and none of us should stop complaining about how divisive politics has become in this country.
And women – well, what can I say? Make your voice heard before you have no voice. Again.
So – this is what I’m saying… I’m not going to stop writing about what I know to be inequalities in this world. I’m not going to stop complaining or demanding that things change. If this bothers you in any way – just don’t read and feel free to take me off of your list of friends. For the honest question would be this; if you don’t see the inequalities I write of or even try to understand, then you and I don’t really have much in common and are we really “friends?”
Yes, we can volunteer and help where possible, but change can only come through some sort of complaining. Change can only occur when you touch a heart – then the mind starts to think… I’ll listen to what you have to say – right up to the point where you tell me not to complain. Then, you’ve lost me, for change can only come through constant complaining and vigilance for what is right and just.
Margaret Mead said it best: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”